Who are snipers? How to disarm them?
Have you ever felt bad or angry when someone takes a potshot at you in disguise of humor? Such people are called snipers.
In this post, I will help you with a simple strategy that you can use effectively to deal with the situation and disarm the sniper.
Here is how you handle it calmly(do not show anger or frustration while using this strategy). With a spotlight question.
“Are you trying to say___________, is that what you are trying to say?”
highlight what he/she is trying to say openly.
Let’s say you excuse yourself in a group and say “Ok guys I got to leave now!” The sniper will look at others and say “Oh ho! Someone has to cook for his wife today!”. And all laughs.
Here, you may have various reasons to leave, not concerning the person and leaving early is in your right. It was said to downgrade you before others. Do not allow the sniper to have fun.
Now turn on to the person and ask “Are you trying to say that man shouldn’t help his wife? Is that what you are trying to say?” Snipers are never ready for the counter question, are dishonest and mostly jealous. In 99% times he would say “No, I did not mean that” and will get worried as they are not ready for this. Continue such questions as long as you want to have fun. Never allow snipers to take a dig at your self-esteem.